Articles from May, 2011

Tuesday, May 31st, 2011

Disconnect to Connect: Foregoing Facebook and iPads to Model Connection for Our Children

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Disconnect to Connect: Foregoing Facebook and iPads to Model Connection for Our Children
So, I caved! I gave my 12-year-old Ethiopian daughter a cell phone this year. As she was heading into middle school, I realized that she needed it to stay connected to us “in case of emergencies.” Well, as you can imagine, the phone has become an invisible lifeline between my sweet Grace and her friends. Lately, when she walks in the back door after school, she forgets to say hello to me or doesn’t hear me because she is texting.     It has only been three years since Grace came to live with our family via adoption from Ethiopia.  Read more »

Nanny Wanted: Must Be Both Idiot and Expert

On a parenting message board, I compete with people named Luz Hernandez, Diana Carrillo and Alma de la Cruz.  Read more »

Midsummer Recipe: Ginger-glazed Salmon Over Warm Potato Salad

After browsing many Scandinavian recipes for this issue, we struck upon one that is summery, Swedish-inspired and delicious  Read more »

Honoring Your Child’s Heritage When He’s Too Young to Care

When my husband and I decided to adopt internationally, we entered the process fully aware that adopting a child of a different race, ethnicity and culture would mean being intentional about how we’d honor his race, ethnicity and culture in our family.  Read more »

Nudity: Getting (Un)dressed in the Czech Republic

As a heat wave hit Prague this spring, clothes came off faster than the record breaking temperatures rose. Strolling through Prague's parks, I encountered locals sunning themselves and even saw a few toddlers in the buff testing out the city's newly activated fountains. While I managed to keep my own and my kids' clothes on (though I lost the battle over shoes), I noticed many Czechs of both genders stripped down to their underwear in the public parks.  Read more »

Bilingual Parenting: OPOL or Mixed Language—Does it Matter?

Bilingual parenting is more common than we think. It’s the norm in many countries where citizens speak several languages or dialects that are transmitted to their children. Mixed marriages, with parents who come from different countries and speak different languages, create families where two languages coexist in daily life. Families moving to live in another country, either as expatriates or immigrants, also bring an extra language into the home.  Read more »

Crime Without Punishment: Why the Death of Vincent Chin Resonates Today

Before I came to Michigan for graduate school, the only thing I knew about Michigan was that it was where Vincent Chin was killed. My parents’ Japanese-American neighbors warned me to sell my father’s Toyota 4Runner and buy a Ford Bronco. I asked about safety as much as I did about academics before I decided to come.   This year marks the 29th anniversary of the baseball bat beating that caused the death of Vincent Chin.  Read more »

African Parenting: The Sane Way to Raise Children

There is an oft-quoted African saying, “It takes a village to raise a child.” Less cited is the second half of the saying, “...and a community to keep the parents sane.” I started my pregnancy in the U.K. but one of the reasons I returned to Kenya—the country of my birth—to raise my daughter was for community. Community in Kenya takes many forms.  Read more »

Make a Snowy Owl

A popular symbol of Quebec is the snowy owl (the national bird). To celebrate St. Jean Baptiste day, let’s make something fun and representative of Quebec.   Materials: 1 regular-size paper plate 1 dessert-size paper plate Cotton balls or white feathers (or even both) Scraps of yellow and brown construction paper Black pen Glue Scissors   Instructions: 1.  Read more »

Favorite Swedish Stories: Emil in the Soup Tureen

Emil in the Soup Tureen is a story by Swedish author Astrid Lindgren, who is best-known for the classic children's tale Pippi Longstocking. The story paints a quaint and idyllic picture of farm life in rural 20th century Sweden, in the village of Lönneberga, Småland, complete with charming pen and ink illustrations of Emil's misadventures as well as the family farm, called Katthult.  Read more »

Real Intercultural Family in France: German, French and English

Welcome Metrice and Don!   Where are you from?   Metrice: I am American. I grew up in Silver Springs, Maryland (a suburb of Washington D.C.). Don: I was born in Germany. My mom is French and my Dad is American. My parents met in Germany. I was raised until I was 16 in Darmstadt, Germany and at 16 moved to the U.S.   Where do you currently live?   Montpellier, France   Which countries have you lived in since you’ve been together?   U.  Read more »

Canadian Recipe: Poutine

The flashing-neon preface to this recipe is that this is our InCultureParent twist on poutine, the popular Canadian French fry specialty. Because we always try to feature healthy recipes, it didn’t feel right to us to encourage you to eat French fries, even if they are Canadian French fries. So we made our own variation of this Canadian dish, with baked sweet potatoes as French fries  Read more »

Unexpected Gifts on the Declaration of the Bab

Our mothers and grandmothers often do not know how their actions touch us. I was reminded of this truth when I read what my daughter, Shira, wrote about her memories of her grandmother's visit to our home two years ago on the Declaration of the Bab. This is a Baha’i holy day that commemorates the Bab’s revelation to his first disciple that he was the one who would prepare the way for the coming of the Promised One, Baha’u’llah.  Read more »

Learning to Read When Bilingual: Which Language First?

A hot topic for parents trying to raise balanced bilinguals is which language do you teach first, the minority one or the community language? Or maybe both at once?! We didn't have much choice, as our daughter was enrolled (reluctantly) in the English section of her French school for the first two years, due to lack of places on the French side, so all her initial reading was in English.  Read more »

How to go about Japanese-English bilingualism in the U.S.? I don’t want my kids feeling alone and like they don’t fit in.

Dear Dr. Gupta,     How do you suggest a parent work with, while protecting, her children from the strong pressures to conform to making English dominant in one’s head, in the context of the U.S. and Japan? U.S. bilingualism is short lived. Japanese bilingualism is even shorter. I have struggled with this all my life.     I was born as a youngest of three to Japanese parents and moved to Singapore and was put in the British school system for 4 years, then half a year of Japanese school, which I loved, in Singapore.  Read more »

Do manners really matter? Why I hate making my daughter say please and thank you

I hate having to make my daughter say please and thank you. There, I have said it—does that make me a bad mother? I am also well aware that she will be judged on how she presents herself in public. Most societies place a high value on manners and politeness whether the person is sincere or not, so I find myself repeating the words that no doubt drove me crazy as I was growing up: “What do you say?”, “What’s the magic word?” and so on.  Read more »

Announcing the Winner of Bee-Bim Bop

Thanks to everyone who entered our Bee-Bim Bop giveaway, the multicultural book for kids by Linda Sue Park about a mother and daughter shopping and cooking to make the yummy Korean dish, bee-bim bop. Thanks to Clarion Books who made the giveaway possible.   We loved reading all the responses of your favorite Korean dishes and reasons why you wanted to win.  Read more »

Don’t Ask ‘How Are You’ in Germany

It hadn’t taken me long upon arrival in Germany from Armenia to figure out that Germans didn’t do small talk. The taxi drivers didn’t chit chat like New York cabbies. Neither did receptionists, bank tellers, cashiers or anyone really. In fact, they didn’t respond much at all to my attempts at small talk.   Each day on my way to the office, I stopped at the same bakery to get a broetchen (roll) followed by Wacker’s café for my morning latte machiatto.  Read more »

Issues with Living Multilingually

My two "pet issues" with living multilingually are closely related.   Issue number one is "multilingual schizophrenia." I don't know whether there is an official term for it, so this is my term. I feel slightly different depending on what language I speak, almost as if my personality changes a little bit when I switch languages.   Issue number two is "language forgetting," or in my case "mother-tongue forgetting.  Read more »

Our Next Giveaway: Bee-Bim Bop

Because we love our readers, we love to give stuff away to you! Win Bee-Bim Bop by Linda Sue Park, courtesy of Clarion Books, which is a wonderful book about this yummy Korean dish. To win, follow these steps: 1. Like us on Facebook. 2. Tell us what your favorite Korean dish is in the comments below. Don't have one? Then tell us why you would like to win instead.  Read more »

Top Ten International Travel Tips with Children

1. Train them to sleep anywhere: This is more of a pre-preparation. Most advice focuses on creating the ideal sleeping environment. While helpful, it doesn’t allow your child the benefit of one of the biggest gifts you can give them for their whole lives—being able to sleep anywhere. This is usually easier if you breastfeed and co-sleep. For handy tips see The African Guide to Co-sleeping.  Read more »
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Why I Travel 13 Hours Alone with My Kids Every Chance I Get

Travelling with children, while definitely more of a mission, contradicts the old saying that “life is about the journey, not the destination.”

A Diverse Book for Preschoolers in Celebration of Multicultural Children's Book Day

A book that honestly and simply celebrates the every day diversity that children experience.

Why My African Feminist Mother Gave Me the Identity of My Father's Tribe

She gave me an identity so different from her own.

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Why We Need to Read Multicultural Children's Books

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Will Three Languages Confuse a Young Child?

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What I Can Do as a White Mom After Darren Wilson’s Acquittal

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We dare you to read these without a tear

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The Cultural Battleground of Sleepovers

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Are Parents Too Overprotective in the West and Too Lax in the East?

Would you pick up a stranger's child or is that invasive?

Does Religion Matter? Juggling Two Faiths in One Family

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Amazing Portraits of Biracial Kids

Smarter, larger, better, healthier and more beautiful? A project that debunks stereotypes.

Dear White Officer, Please Don't Shoot

At what age does my darling black son begin to look like a threat to the world?

A Book that Celebrates Cross-Cultural Friendship

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My Daughter’s 10 Favorite Multicultural Books

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I was Diagnosed with Cancer at Age 37 while Abroad with Kids

Illness in a foreign country can be scary but it taught this mom a different meaning of family.

Huge Giveaway for Eid: Tea Collection, Little Passports, Little Pim, Dolls, Books, Music & More

Win almost $300 in prizes from awesome globally-inspired children's products.

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Beautiful children's stories from Nepal to Tibet

Why African Toddlers Don't Have Tantrums

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After Her Husband’s Tragic Death, She Embraced a Religion and Culture Not Her Own

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From How My Chinese Mother-in-Law Replaced my Husband
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From The West’s Strange Relationship to Babies and Sleep
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From The West’s Strange Relationship to Babies and Sleep
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From How to raise trilingual kids when exposure to Dad’s language is limited
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From What I Can Do as a White Mom After Darren Wilson’s Acquittal
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From 2 Children’s Books about Jamaica
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From Breastfeeding in the Land of Genghis Khan
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