Wednesday, August 31st, 2011
Why Doesn’t China Let Baba Go Home?By Sophie Beach![]() raising-global-citizens/ © jermfest - Fotolia.comMy six-year-old, Luca, is at the age where he is starting to understand complicated concepts in the world around him. He listens to National Public Radio (NPR) with me in the car and asks thoughtful questions about the content, sometimes at the moment and sometimes a couple of days later, when I can barely remember the broadcast that is still so clear in his mind. © 2011 – 2013, Sophie Beach. All rights reserved. More Great Stuff You'll Love:
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This was written so beautifully. I can feel the pain of not being able to take your children to China with Baba. But it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job helping them love their culture even living in the United States. I loved the part where you said “We show him that this love of China does not change, even when we disagree vehemently with the group of powerful people in charge of the country. And we hope, as he makes his own way in the world, that he will take this important lesson with him.” What a great life lesson that can apply in so many other areas of life.
I was very taken by your story. I am raising a family myself outside my husband’s country of origin, although in our case it is out of choice, it is always challenging to balance the culture the children are growing up with their heritage. It seems to me you are doing a wonderful job. You have been brave with your ideals and sacrificed an awful lot, but at the end of the day kids need their mum and dad more than anything else. They also need to have a sense of identity and you are providing this too. Hopefully winds of change are ahead. Regards from Spain
I didn’t know this about your family. How difficult it must be for your husband to be politically barred from his home country, especially when it means that your children also can’t go there. Good for you for all your efforts at keeping the Chinese culture alive for your family.
Loved your post. I live in Beijing and am married to a Chinese man and we’re expecting our first. I’m Canadian, though, and I know Karen Patterson!! She’s been here many years and has lots to say, especially related to the arts community here. My husband and I are both musicians and have, so far, not met with any censorship regarding our work, recorded or live, but there is the looming presence of a government that “could just do anything, anytime” here. However, it’s getting more and more loose every year and I do feel there’s much more in the way of vocalization and true expression among artists and activists here than ever before. We have the Internet to thank for that! Thanks for the inspiration!! I’m so excited to be about to have our first child and to know that he or she will be bilingual (if not trilingual, as I also speak French!). All the best to you and yours.
Thanks everyone for the kind words.
@ Ember, I just came across your blog last week and enjoyed reading about your life in Beijing. Thanks for your comments. And best wishes to you and your family as you welcome your little one. What a lucky baby!
Thank you so much for sharing this. Last week my daughter, an almost eight-year-old Chinese adoptee, asked me if China “wanted her.” She wondered why she couldn’t stay in China, adopted by a Chinese family, rather than traveling half-way across the world to live with an American family. I attempted to explain, but it’s so… complicated. We’ve tried so hard to incorporate all of the things you talked about into our lives (a love for China, it’s culture, traditions and people), but what can two white people who’ve never fully experienced the culture truly do?
I stumbled onto your website as I was looking for lion dance costume for next chinese new year. I was very moved by your blog, and I can’t even begin to imagine the difficulty in explaining to the kids about why their Daddy can’t go home. China had changed a lot in the last 10 years, but not enough yet. Hopefully, one day, you and your family and go home and not worry about prosecution. Keep up the good fight.
I say go anyway. Let your children get to know their paternal grandparents and all the nice things in Beijing. I know it may not be complete without dad but at least they start getting a more positive notion of a culture(not necessarily the country) that is part of them.