Articles from September, 2012

Friday, September 28th, 2012

The International Adoption Experience: Living in the Great Unknown

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The International Adoption Experience: Living in the Great Unknown
I’m a compulsive list maker, and I write (full-time) for a living. Deadlines and “to dos” are always with me. The pressure of an approaching deadline can be stressful, but when that blog post, research project or magazine article is delivered, the relief is a beautiful thing.   The international adoption process though? It’s like nothing I’ve ever experienced before. Since we started the journey last fall, there have been numerous deadlines and “to dos” that have kept us focused, forging ahead, even frenetic at times.  Read more »

The Moment I First Fell for a Man

When I first met Guo Jian, I had already noticed him.  Read more »

Want to Raise a Global Citizen? Follow Soccer!

Ever since our son was born almost eight years ago, my husband and I have been committed to raising him and his younger sister bilingual (Mandarin/English) and bicultural, with an interest in the world beyond our borders.  Read more »

Empty Nest in the Emirates

For the last four years our family has been going through a well-rehearsed but unpleasant ritual on a regular basis: the leaving of college-age children.  Read more »

Rosh Hashanah Apple Cake

Apples and honey are the symbolic foods of the Jewish New Year. So let’s make something sweet to celebrate!

Ingredients

  • 1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon, plus more for sprinkling on pan
  • 1 1/2-2 tart apples, peeled, cored, and thinly sliced
  • 4 tablespoons butter, softened
  • 3/4 cup packed brown sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/2 cup whole milk
  • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 1 cup all-purpose flour
  • 1 teaspoon baking powder
  • 2 teaspoons honey


  • Instructions

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Five Fun Games from Around the World

Children's games are a great way to show kids the influence of culture on the games we play. Here are five fun suggestions of kid's game from around the world to get started. All of these games can be played inside or outside so they are a good option in any type of weather. They can also make perfect party games. Tinikling – Philippines Tinikling is a popular dance in the Philippines that is based on the movements of a tinikling bird.  Read more »

10 Things Not to Say to Parents of Multilingual Children

As a Polish mother in the Netherlands with multilingual children growing up with Polish, German and Dutch, I often hear uninformed and judgmental comments. Inspired by Babble’s “What not to say…” series, I wrote my own list about what you should never (and I mean NEVER) say to parents of multilingual children. 1) “I know somebody who is bilingual, and they never learned to speak any language properly.  Read more »

Enkutatash Recipe: Dabo Kolo

Looking for a fun way to celebrate Ethiopian New Year with your family?  These snacks are great for lunchboxes, after school snacks or appetizer nibbles at your next dinner party. You can easily adjust the spice level to make them more or less but I lean towards more spicy!

Ingredients:
1 c whole wheat flour
1 1/2 tablespoons berberé
1/2 tablespoon sugar
3/4 teaspoon salt

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Enkutatash (Ethiopian New Year): September 11

Enkutatash, the Ethiopian New Year, marks the end of the rainy reason and the beginning of the spring sunshine. While Ethiopia follows the Julian calendar, the holiday falls on September 11th according to the Western or Gregorian calendar, except for leap years, when it occurs on September 12th. Enkutatash, meaning “gift of jewels” in Amharic, originally derives from the story of the Queen of Sheba returning from visiting King Solomon in Jerusalem, according to popular legend.  Read more »

Kids Marshmallow Experiment

A seminal study conducted in the 60s and 70s found that young kids who could delay gratification turned out more successful in school, received higher test scores on their SATs and were better able to cope with stress and frustration when they became teenagers. Apparently, delayed gratification is an intrinsic quality. Whether you can delay gratification or not can be clearly seen in children.  Read more »

Parenting in Kenya: What It Takes a Village Really Means

Caleb, my three-year-old son, and I walk down the craggy Kenyan road, one of his little hands in mine and the other clutching his prized soccer ball. A man is coming our way, looking at Caleb, his ball, and smiling.  I brace myself for the inevitable as he says it: “Habari mtoto. Give me that ball.” “No!” screams Caleb, clutching his ball even closer.  Read more »

Tipping the Bilingual Scale on Arabic Exposure

A few weeks ago, my husband I spent an inordinate amount of hours at work. It was one of those truly hellish weeks for working parents, where we both had important and long work commitments at exactly the same time, which made for a childcare scramble. Luckily, our babysitter was very accommodating (including arriving at the ungodly hour of 6:30 a.m.  Read more »

7 Favorite Children’s Books on Going to School Around the World

Every summer my kids and I spend at least six weeks in Chennai, a metropolis in Southern India where I was born and raised.  Even though the chaos and noise of a hot, crowded city has grown on them over the years, there are certain things that continue to fascinate them. For instance, I’ve noticed how they stand on the verandah and catch the action on the street with undivided attention every morning.  Read more »
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Will Three Languages Confuse a Young Child?

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The Cultural Battleground of Sleepovers

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Would you pick up a stranger's child or is that invasive?

Does Religion Matter? Juggling Two Faiths in One Family

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Amazing Portraits of Biracial Kids

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Dear White Officer, Please Don't Shoot

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A Book that Celebrates Cross-Cultural Friendship

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My Daughter’s 10 Favorite Multicultural Books

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