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Thursday, August 29th, 2013

Infertility and Alternative Methods of Conceiving

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It can be devastating for you to hear that your chance of giving birth with your own eggs is less than 1%. As women, we are restricted by the number of eggs we have, and as we age, the quality and number of our eggs begins to decrease.

 

When women reach their thirties, you still have plenty of eggs left, but the follicles around the eggs may stop responding to hormones, and the process of egg destruction continues at the same time. This goes on regardless of whether you become pregnant or use contraceptive measures.

 

If you haven’t been able to get pregnant for a while, you can still fulfill the dream of cradling your own baby through options like egg donation, artificial insemination and uterus transplant.

 

Concerns about such solutions

 

There are likely a lot of questions on your mind when you think about conceiving through an alternative method. What are you going to say to your child? What will your relatives think about this? What will the child think when he/she finds out? How will your husband feel? Can you even afford the solution?

 

Reproductive alternatives are growing in popularity, and affordable options have increased in recent times as well. For women who can’t afford traditional donor cycles, alternatives are available in the form of frozen donors, and they are almost 50% less expensive than fresh donor cycles. The site myeggbank.com/donors has more information on the frozen egg donor process. The benefit of relying on the latter is that you don’t have to wait for 6-9 months for the matching process as the diverse inventory makes it possible for patients to get started quickly. The database also contains detailed information about the egg donor process and each of the providers goes through FDA compliance standards.

 

You may also be stressed about how your friends will react to your decision. However, you’re probably not aware that the number of alternative solutions have grown in recent times across different states in U.S., so these options are now more mainstream.

 

Not able to conceive? It’s ok

 

Not being able to get pregnant isn’t the end of the world. You should remember that there are many, many women who’ve gone through such processes to give birth, and they’re quite happy with their decisions. The solutions are well managed and regulated enough for couples to safely opt for it.

 

Shouldn’t you be concerned about family roots? Yes, they do determine the origins of a child’s identity, but do remember that they aren’t the only source of identity. Identities change and vary during the course of life. The change depends on cultural and several other factors, but the actual family roots are related to the upbringing of the child, so you can still transmit your family roots to your child even if he/she doesn’t share your genetics at birth.

 

Educating yourself and your friends and relatives is important when you’re considering alternative remedies. Self-education will go a long way in this process.

 

Allay your own fears and the fears your friends and family may have about surrogacy; help them understand that reproductive health remediation can provide life-changing gifts. Once you educate yourself and others, cultural fears and family concerns will dissipate on their own.

© 2013, Christina Moore. All rights reserved.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR


Christina Moore is a freelance writer, and stay-at-home Mom in San Diego, CA. She enjoys staying fit with weekly yoga sessions and running along the beach.

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