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Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

Do WASP Westerners Deserve Visibility in a Foreign Culture?

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Do WASP Westerners Deserve Visibility in a Foreign Culture?
I’m rarely riled by critics, but recently a couple of comments really got under my skin. They were in response to a piece I wrote about my mother-in-law’s journey to Canada—her first trip to the West. The comments accused me of having a superiority complex over Chinese culture, being “improperly” bicultural, having a problem with “Chinese-ness,” being embarrassed by my mother-in-law, disliking the Chinese, and “having trouble reconciling my upbringing with my Eastern home.” Another commentor suggested I wanted to be “congratulated for putting up with” my Chinese mother-in-law.  Read more »

Should we switch from OPOL to ML@H to maximize language exposure?

Dear Dr. Gupta,   We are an English/German-speaking family, currently living in Germany practicing one parent one language (OPOL) with our two-year-old.  Read more »

How I Got the Canadian Mother’s Day I Wanted in China

Today is Mother’s Day. At least, it’s Mother’s Day in our house, long after the real Mother’s Day has come and gone.  Read more »

Parenting in Kenya: What It Takes a Village Really Means

Caleb, my three-year-old son, and I walk down the craggy Kenyan road, one of his little hands in mine and the other clutching his prized soccer ball.  Read more »

Raising Multicultural Children: A Symphony of Swishing Walnut and Baobab Trees

I was born in a small Slavonian town, the first grandchild to my grandparents and niece to six aunts. We all lived together, in a red roofed traditional Slavonian house, with the requisite walnut tree in the front yard and a continually busy kitchen, where a large pot of beans and potatoes simmered slowly and cheese strudel cooled on the windowsill.  Read more »

The All-or-Nothing Family: A Lament

The hardest thing for me about our unique little family is our unique extended family situation. One side of the family is in the U.S., the other side of the family in Lebanon, and we, like shipwrecked sailors, somewhere in the middle, impossibly far from both. Ok, yes, there’s email. Skype. Facebook. Planes and international travel. Thank goodness! Without all that our lives would be truly sad and lonely ones.  Read more »

Expat Life Explained

I was obviously joking when I told you not to live abroad. Living abroad is probably the second most amazing thing I have done in my life. Right after raising children. But while we're talking about the problematic sides of multilingual living, I might as well mention one big problem all expats will face at some point.   Family & Home Away From Home   So you're living abroad.  Read more »

Embarrassing Multilingual Moments

The other day a builder was at our house to do something in the kitchen. He told me how he thought it was funny that just when he knocked on the door, a Lufthansa aircraft went overhead, because garble blah garble blah blah.   I tried not to do the completely blank stare, but I had not understood a single word of his explanation.   Now, about an hour later, I think he was trying some German and I felt a bit sorry because it failed utterly.  Read more »

Real Intercultural Family in France: German, French and English

Welcome Metrice and Don!   Where are you from?   Metrice: I am American. I grew up in Silver Springs, Maryland (a suburb of Washington D.C.). Don: I was born in Germany. My mom is French and my Dad is American. My parents met in Germany. I was raised until I was 16 in Darmstadt, Germany and at 16 moved to the U.S.   Where do you currently live?   Montpellier, France   Which countries have you lived in since you’ve been together?   U.  Read more »

Real Intercultural Family in Norway: English, Farsi and Norwegian

Welcome Tine and Kambiz!   Where are you from?   Tine: Åndalsnes, Norway Kambiz: Tehran, Iran   Where do you currently live?   Oslo, Norway   Which countries have you lived in since you've been together?   Egypt, Tajikistan and Norway   Tine: We first lived in Tajikistan together.  Read more »

Stereotypes in Bringing up Children

(This is the follow-up to the article Cultural Stereotypes) Where to live? On a recent long-haul flight, I was talking with an American who lives in Germany and has lived in France for some time. We spoke about family and children and I mentioned that I was not sure whether I preferred my children to grow up in the UK or in France. I have three girls and my feeling is that I'd probably like them to be French rather than English.  Read more »

Autism and Multilingualism: A Parent’s Perspective

It happened again last week. I was enjoying a cup of coffee with a colleague when she asked me point blank what language we spoke at home. I often get that question as my husband and I come from different countries and on top of that, we're expats in Turkey. This makes us, for all practical purposes, a trilingual family. But people don't buy that and they want to know which of our three languages we really speak, when no one is watching.  Read more »

Cultural Stereotypes

I have been an expat for almost 13 years or roughly one-third of my life. I grew up in Northern Germany and moved to the South in 1990 so really we're talking about 21 years that I have not lived "at home." (As in most countries, the North and South of Germany are very different.) I think I am so used to it by now that I can't easily say where exactly I come from.  Read more »

The Expat’s Dilemma

Eight days before Halloween, on a misty Saturday afternoon, I had what the French call "un grand moment de solitude." I was in a nearly-deserted park, one designed on a truly grandiose scale. Matthew, age four, was standing next to me, dressed in a raincoat and boots, with a king's cape. A golden crown was on his head and a foam sword was tucked into his improvised kingly belt made out of a playsilk that had been languishing, unused, for years in his toy box.  Read more »
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From Breastfeeding in the Land of Genghis Khan
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From Breastfeeding in the Land of Genghis Khan
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From How I Reclaimed My House from My Mother-in-Law
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From How I Reclaimed My House from My Mother-in-Law
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From 11 African-American Children’s Books for Christmas and Kwanzaa
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From Why Your Bilingual Child Objects When You Switch Languages
This is really great! I wanted to do a book list for some of my friends and family about Kwanzaa. Thank you for this articl...
From 11 African-American Children’s Books for Christmas and Kwanzaa
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From Si­, Yes: Raising Bilingual Twins
[…] the breastfeeding culture in Mongolia compared to America. Did you have any idea that something as simple as breastfeeding attitudes can […...
From Breastfeeding in the Land of Genghis Khan
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From Breastfeeding in the Land of Genghis Khan
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From Why African Babies Don’t Cry
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From Are Germans Really Rude?
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From The West’s Strange Relationship to Babies and Sleep
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From Why African Toddlers Don’t Have Tantrums
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From Imbolc Craft: St. Brigid’s Cross
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From How I Reclaimed My House from My Mother-in-Law
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From Why African Babies Don’t Cry
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I love this website and its insight on raising global citizens. I agree with what you say about no one English accent being correct - the thing that I was surprised by in this article was the fact ...
From Should I Worry about My Child’s Accent in Her Foreign Language?
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From How I Talk to My Kindergarten Classroom About Race
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From The West’s Strange Relationship to Babies and Sleep
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From The West’s Strange Relationship to Babies and Sleep
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From 10 Things Not to Say to Parents of Multilingual Children
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From Si­, Yes: Raising Bilingual Twins
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From Breastfeeding in the Land of Genghis Khan
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From The West’s Strange Relationship to Babies and Sleep